Assertiveness

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¿What do you do when you have a problem? ¿In which way do you response?
The best way to react is the Assertiveness which is the ability to:
-Express your thoughts in an appropriate moment
-Choose how to react.
-Raise your self-esteem and  help to develop self-confidence.
-Ask other to change their bad behavior and disagree when it is important.   

There are three different conducts:

• Passive: 
  GOALS:
  √ He/She seek to appease everyone; to avoid conflicts.
  IMPLICATIONS:
  ✖He/She violates her/his own rights.
  ✖He/She will not express her/his thoughts, feelings, or beliefs; if they do it they expresses them timidly.
  ✖Easily disregarded by others.
  
  
• Assertive:
  GOALS:
  √ Use in a good way the communication.
  √ Give and receive respect.
  √ Use fairness: allowing opportunities for agreements.
  IMPLICATIONS:√ He/She defends own rights.
  √ Express all her/his feelings, beliefs and thoughts in an appropriate way.
  √ Will never violate others' rights.

• Aggressive:
  GOALS:
  √ He/She dominate and win.
  √ Defend his or her own rights.
  √ Express her/ his thoughts directly but no sincerely. 
• IMPLICATIONS:
  ✖ Forced the other person to lose.
  ✖ Violates the right of others.
  ✖ Inappropriate beliefs.
  ✖Gains: Humiliating, degrading, dominating and despising.
  ✖ Weaken others and make it harder for them to defend themselves and express their ideas

✩Attack: instinctive response
✩Retreat: instinctive response
✩Critical Thinking: rational response

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